coffeeandsnow92:

everyone loves Cicero ahah

annoying funny bastard

and then there was the time where I convinced him to pick up one of the clubs dropped by a recently deceased giant… I couldn’t take it out of his inventory, so it became his only weapon.

"If you are 35 or younger - and quite often, older - the advice of the old economy does not apply to you. You live in the post-employment economy, where corporations have decided not to pay people. Profits are still high. The money is still there. But not for you. You will work without a raise, benefits, or job security. Survival is now a laudable aspiration."

Quoted from Sarah Kendzior’s “Surviving the Post-Employment Economy

“In the United States, nine percent of computer science majors are unemployed, and 14.7 percent of those who hold degrees in information systems have no job. Graduates with degrees in STEM - science, technology, engineering and medicine - are facing record joblessness, with unemployment at more than twice pre-recession levels. The job market for law degree holders continues to erode, with only 55 percent of 2011 law graduates in full-time jobs. Even in the military, that behemoth of the national budget, positions are being eliminated or becoming contingent due to the sequester.

It is not skills or majors that are being devalued. It is people.”

Her work is frank, speaking of a reality I hope that will never be mine. At the same time, it gives me a strange comfort to know that I am not alone.

(via sextus—empiricus)

realsocialskills:

Tone is important. When you say things the right way, it can increase the number of people who are willing to listen to you. 

But that only goes so far. No matter how good you are at framing things, some things that need to be said will upset people who feel entitled to be comfortable. And, when you upset people who feel entitled to comfort, they will lash out at you. This is not your fault; it is theirs. Tone has its limits.

Also, getting tone right is really hard. No one starts out good at tone; it’s a very difficult skill that you can only learn with practice. And the only way to get practice is to spend a lot of time talking to people about controversial things. Which means that, in order to get good at tone, you’re going to have to spend a lot of time talking about these things while you’re still bad at tone. 

People who mean well and genuinely want you to be heard understand this, and will encourage you to keep speaking up and keep working on your skills at speaking up effectively. People who want you to shut up about the things you’re talking about will try to make you feel horrible about your tone and convince you that your tone means you have no right to say anything.

Sometimes, when people say that you should be more careful about tone so that you can be heard, what they really mean is “I don’t want to hear that, shut up and say something else I’m willing to listen to”.

Don’t believe those people, and don’t shut up. The most important thing is to keep talking. If you are bad at tone, some people will refuse to hear you. If you are good at tone, some people will still refuse to hear you. If you say nothing for fear of getting the tone wrong, no one will hear you.

Shutting up won’t get you heard. Speaking up might.

"Sometimes people think they know you. They know a few facts about you, and they piece you together in a way that makes sense to them. And if you don’t know yourself very well, you might even believe that they are right. But the truth is, that isn’t you. That isn’t you at all."
— Leila Sales, This Song Will Save Your Life (via larmoyante)

anamelesscollective:

n4ut:

Kind of want to turn this into a bigger/more detailed piece. Thanks Ash, you made me want to draw this.

I like this a lot. Very nice ballpoint work.


dardha:

Ancient healers believed Earth’s energy could be easily absorbed through our skin and through the soles of our feet.
Studies proves earthing (also called grounding) can improve your blood pressure, reduce cortisol, and even help problems sleeping. It’s done by reconnecting your body with the free electrons that flow through the Earth’s surface and it’s as easy as walking barefoot outdoors.

dardha:

Ancient healers believed Earth’s energy could be easily absorbed through our skin and through the soles of our feet.

Studies proves earthing (also called grounding) can improve your blood pressure, reduce cortisol, and even help problems sleeping. It’s done by reconnecting your body with the free electrons that flow through the Earth’s surface and it’s as easy as walking barefoot outdoors.

(Source: valkyriethais)

"Unless every single individual in your family is Autistic, you are NOT a family “with” autism. You are a family with Autistic people in it. Or, you know…..just a family. Please stop making autism about how it effects you and not the actual Autistic person. THANK YOU."
— Lei Wiley-Mydske (via autisticwomen)

ourpeanutgallerie:

Because I’ve been a bit absent lately, I don’t know if anyone has posted an ‘announcement’ of sorts like this yet.  But, bc I don’t know what information other countries may be getting, I wanted to make you all aware with adequate forewarning.  There is a film coming out this Friday called Frankie and Alice.  It stars Halle Berry (so it will definitely attract film-goers of all demographics and backgrounds) and is about multiplicity.  Every interview I’ve seen thusfar says little to nothing about DID (instead uses MPD, etc) and feels very dated to me; and, I’m quite nervous just given the way Halle has spoken about the illness and film, despite supposedly doing lots of ‘research’.  Film worries aside, my MAIN reason for telling you this is NOT to inform you of a movie but instead let you all know that as of Friday in the states (and maybe even earlier in other countries since that sometimes happens), there may be a LOT of people searching DID and MPD tags.  They may already be generating some searches as people hear more about it, but…. I think it’s quite important, and only fair, that you all be aware and prepared for any and all kinds of anons and morbidly curious people with no real vested interest in the disorder, let alone you.  I know how hard it can be to be totally caught off guard by questions and odd things suddenly filling your inbox, and if it rolls into any kind of global drama it can disrupt an entire system.  So, I thought that in the event of that happening in the coming month or so after its debut, we can all unite together in advance and throughout.  But also, even more importantly, if you are feeling particularly fragile, maybe reconsider tagging some of your new posts differently for just a little while just to avoid any ill-intentioned traffic.

It’s possible nothing will happen, but — with so little current media on the subject beyond a very flawed United States of Tara — it may generate a lot of discussion, exploration, people who think they’re funny, those who need to just add their two cents, vehement disbelievers AND….if the film is done terribly….could get some really bad traction for us.  I wanted you all to have a safe heads up to be able to make everyone inside aware and maybe discuss as a system how you want to handle things if it does get a little yucky around here.

You all have my love and support.  Let’s all just hope that now in 2014 they’ve learned to do extensive research and create overwhelmingly accurate portrayals of any mental illness [which, sadly, most films don’t].  But ultimately, I’m hoping that those who inevitably poke around the tags do so without causing too much strife.  In the event one or neither are the case, I want you to have as much forewarning and preparation time as possible AND to know that you have my/our support <33

mewethem:

Here’s the deal: my boyfriend is having a hard time wrapping his head around DDNOS/DID, and we have talked about this and he is willing to really make an effort and research it. However, he is pretty busy with uni work at the moment, so I had this idea that we could watch United States of Tara together, and save the DID-books until his course is over. Now, I do realize that United States of Tara is not really meant to be educational, and I know that it will probably be a bit overdramatic at times, so my question to those of you who have seen it; how good/bad is it? Is it sort of accurate, or is it totally overdramatic? Does it give a bit of insight into what it’s like to live with this condition, or would watching it just add to my boyfriend’s confusion? 

I was also wondering, for my own sake, is it triggering? 

Any input would be appreciated! Oh, and if there are other resources (books, shows, movies, documentaries and so on) for people living with someone who struggles with DDNOS/DID you can recommend, it would mean the world to me!




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USoT was one of the better representations of DID to come out of hollywood.  It certainly is, as you suspect, a bit dramatic at times. It did give some good insight, IMO, on living with someone with the condition.  Season 1 had very little in the way of common triggers (though keep in mind, it’s impossible to know what may or may not be triggering to any certain person).  That said, I also feel season 1 felt a lot like a “look at the crazy lady” show than the later seasons. I feel like the later seasons did a better job of representing what it’s like to have DID, without losing the dynamic showing what it’s like to live with someone with DID.

Two other resources come to mind. One is Jeff Vineburg’s The Significant Other’s Guide to Dissociative Identity Disorder. It’s only a few pages long.  You may want to read it first, some days I feel like it offers a really bleak picture of this disorder.  You can find it at this link: http://www.toddlertime.com/dx/did/did-guild.htm

The other is a book by Martha Stout titled The Myth of Sanity: Divided Consciousness and the Promise of Awareness.  It’s a quick and easy read.  There’s also a good chance you can find a free copy if you Google for it ;)  A lot of resources I’ve found ( nearly all of them) present DID only in it’s most florid presentation ( very overt - wildly different alters easily differentiated by an untrained layperson). Stout’s book was a refreshing change of pace in this sense.  It explains dissociation in a way that I’d like to see more often - as an extreme version of a common phenomenon.  By doing so, it manages to make DID seem eminently reasonable.

tinkerterror:

whappy101:

glassbottledemon:

Male rape victim talks about why he finds male rape funny at the Atomic Vaudeville Cabaret in June of 2012.

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I was about to get kind of upset untill I finished it to the end. Its so true though.

Go and watch the video